Many people struggle to accept themselves, struggle to accept the way their Creator, God, designed and made them. Society puts so much pressure on individuals to have to look a certain way, be a certain body size, height, and the list goes on. Many people are pressured into impossible standards, influenced by social trends, identifying themselves against social standards. It is no surprise that billions of dollars are spent on cosmetics annually, with so many trying to achieve a certain look to conform to social trends. The reality is, there are certain things about you that can never be changed. We all need to accept and embrace our reality, our differences. Below is a list of ten things you cannot change, also known as the 10 unchangeables.
- Birth order
- Physical features
- Mental capacity and temperament
- Time in history
It is important that you come to a place of accepting your “unchangeables”. Understanding and accepting who you are, your identity, allows you to progress in life and walk in confidence. Not being confident in your identity leads to confusion and a need to constanty seek approval.
Society identifies us by concepts of success, how masculine or feminine you are, your appearance and unhealthy attachments to people or things.
In order to understand who you are and what your identity is, it is important that you connect with the source, your Creator, the One that created you and formed you.
What does God say about you? Replace the ‘I am’ with your name.
- I am a child of God
But to all who have received him– those who believe in his name– he has given the right to become God’s children (John 1:12).
- I am a friend of Jesus.
I no longer call you slaves, because the slave does not understand what his master is doing. But I have called you friends, because I have revealed to you everything I heard from my Father (John 15:15)
- As a child of God, I am a fellow heir with Christ.
And if children, then heirs (namely, heirs of God and also fellow heirs with Christ)– if indeed we suffer with him so we may also be glorified with him (Romans 8:17)
- I am a new creature in Christ.
So then, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; what is old has passed away– look, what is new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17)
- I am no longer a slave, but a child and an heir.
So you are no longer a slave but a son, and if you are a son, then you are also an heir through God (Galatians 4:7)
- I am seated in the heavenly places with Christ.
And he raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus … (Ephesians 2:6)
- I am God’s workmanship created to produce good works.
For we are his workmanship, having been created in Christ Jesus for good works that God prepared beforehand so we may do them (Ephesians 2:10)
- I am a citizen of heaven.
But our citizenship is in heaven– and we also await a saviour from there, the Lord Jesus Christ … (Philippians 3:20)