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WHAT IS GROWING IN YOUR GARDEN?

When I work up this morning, one question was impressed upon me. What is growing in my garden? I thought about this question and began to ask myself, what am I watering in my life, nurturing, allowing to grow in my garden, in my environment? What kind of garden would I like?

I remember back years ago, when I decided to grow a veggie patch in my garden. I planted seeds, topped them with fertilizer and regularly watered them waiting for those seeds to sprout, eventually bearing fruit.

Every day I went into my garden, I would find weeds sprouting here and there. I never planted these weeds. When I pulled one out, often other roots of weed were attached. I’d then dig deeper into the soil, only to find more roots of weed. I knew, if I didn’t remove these weeds from the roots, they would multiply and grow, suffocating the seeds that I planted.

My garden reminds me of life in general. We all want a nice ‘fruitful’ garden. A garden bearing good fruit in every season. Like life, we want to have provision in food, clothing, shelter, water, we want our environment to be orderly, predictable and attractive. We often find our lives in turmoil with things that come up, whether that be people that show up for a brief moment or long term relationship pains. Maybe financial difficulty, loss of a family member, job loss, disappointment, rejection, broken dreams, broken promises, identity crisis, business loss, we all struggle with unexpected crisis. We are to expect crisis, however, what have we allowed to grow and establish in our garden? What have we nurtured, watered and allowed to flourish?

I look and reflect on my personal garden and I can see through my own behaviour and actions, many weeds that I allowed to find a home to. These can be in the form of bitter thoughts, unhealthy relationships, unforgiveness, disappointment, not letting go of the past, blaming God for my current situation and circumstance. When I reflect, I can identify that some of these roots have grown into shrubs, some into overbearing trees. I had allowed these weeds to grow in my garden for a long time, causing clutter, taking up room in areas my life should really be bearing fruit. Some of these weeds, the roots go so deep, ie, issues that have not yet been addressed, confronted and dealt with.

I made a decision today,  that I am going to clean up my garden. No more weeds!  I want every weed removed by the root, not giving it an opportunity to poison my garden again. No matter how deep the pain of addressing and pulling out these roots, they need to go.

HOW TO CLEAN YOUR GARDEN

Here is how you can practically clean up your garden. Invite Holy Spirit to show you areas in your garden (environment) that are taking up space and not allowing your life to flourish and be fruitful. Write each “weed” down that you can identify. It may be that there are certain people you need to cut out of your life, it may be that you need to forgive a person/s, perhaps you need renewing of your mind, not seeing things from your own limited perspective, but seeing things from God, the Creators perspective. Perhaps you need to go through a journey of self-acceptance, breaking the power of things spoken negatively over you. You may have been born into a family where they’ve spoken things like ” you’ll never be somebody”, and you’ve accepted these declarations, allowing these lies to dig deep roots in your garden.  You may have some bad habits that you need to be set free from, including addictions.

Ask God to help you clean up your garden. He wants us to live in freedom, free from deep-rooted weeds that suffocate and make our garden toxic. Not only in the physical and emotional, but also in the mind. We need to hold every root-lie captive and demolish unhealthy thought patterns that influence how we view ourselves and influence decisions we make intentionally or reactive based.

Let today be a new day! Make a decision today to clean up your garden!

LIVE IN VICTORY

I don’t know what you are going through in this season, however, I do feel impressed that it is a season of surrender. From the many I speak to and hear from, it seems that many of us are going through a season of challenges and waiting, many waiting on unfulfilled dreams.

Some of you may have lost your jobs, your businesses, finances. You may be experiencing turmoil in your relationships or family, broken relationships, deep disappointment in areas that you have been waiting on God to do a miracle. You may be suffering with internal guilt, shame, heaviness, loneliness, experiencing thoughts of “I am forgotten” or wondering why God hasn’t yet moved in your situation.

To find yourself in this particular season is difficult. You may see no light at the end of the tunnel, everything you try and hold on to seems to fall apart. It feels like war has been waged against your life, and no matter how much you pray, press in, fast, the situation seems to get no better, in some cases, worse.

When I reflect on the story of Joseph in Genesis 37, God had given Joseph two dreams yet, Joseph was abandoned & rejected by his brothers, eventually ending up in prison. I imagine what I would have been thinking, being in Josephs position. I believe I would have had thoughts of, the dream God had given me is never going to be fulfilled, how can it be when I’m in prison, so far from every dream God had given me, so far from my destiny.

My limited mind and lack of faith would have offset disappointment, frustration, rage, heaviness, hopelessness, anger, yet, in what appeared to be the furthest place away from his dream, Joseph was so close to his destination, ie, God given dreams being fulfilled. I wonder where you are at? Are you far from the dreams God has placed in your heart?

I believe that in this season, God is wanting our complete surrender. What does that mean? It means to live from a place of “it’s already been done”. If you are believing for a relationship, then believe it has already been done and begin to live like it’s been done! If you are waiting for a breakthrough with your business or a job opportunity, practically do what is required, however submit and surrender this to God and live like it’s already been done.

Some of you may be facing disunity, or false accusation. Again, surrender the situation and people involved and live from a place that “it has been done”. I believe God is after our 100% surrender and 110% dependency on Him. The surrender is not in our words, it’s not in repetitive prayer or fasting (which are important and required), the surrender is in living from a place that “it’s been done”, enjoying

the peace and security you have in God, excited about what is about to take place in your next season. It is practically living in faith, resting in Him Who orchestrates all things for our good. Our surrender is stepping up in faith, believing, living and resting that God will work it out.

If you are going through a difficult season, learn to surrender, submit your challenges, frustrations, fears and live from a place of victory.

Hebrews 11:6 AMP – But without faith it is impossible to [walk with God and] please Him, for whoever comes [near] to God must [necessarily] believe that God exists and that He rewards those who [earnestly and diligently] seek Him.

 

SET FREE FROM REJECTION

Thomas was 42 years old, married, yet, lonely, suffering symptoms of rejection. Thomas had two children, 7 & 9, had a good paying job, played sport, is part of the men’s group at his local church, however, felt an overwhelming sense of loneliness. Thomas had felt lonely ever since he could remember. He thought that once he was married, had his own family, the feeling of loneliness would leave, but it didn’t, in fact, it intensified.

He had a good relationship with his wife, Tamara, however, often felt that she wasn’t fully invested in him and the marriage. Dinner was an eventful daily activity that brought on so much frustration and tension between Thomas and his wife. His wife detested cooking and so made little to no effort, often grabbing takeaway for the family and encouraging them to eat in front of the TV. To Thomas, this made him feel that his wife Tamara, did not love him or value him, by her not making any effort, despite this being regularly discussed.

An an only child, Thomas grew up with both his parents, TV meals were routine. On occasion, they would sit around the table and talk to Thomas and he began to associate his parent’s one-on-one attention he so desperately craved and needed, as love. He also associated his TV meals as rejection, thinking his parents did not want to talk to him, prioritising the TV over him.

It is clear in this scenario that Thomas’ irrational thought process is causing him to suffer rejection.

At some point in life, you will or would have experienced some form of rejection. Whether it be from family, a broken down relationship/friendship or not being included in certain social groups, one thing we all have in common, we all experience rejection.

We were created and designed with inner needs, needs that only our Creator, God, can fulfill, including:

  • Security – a sense of being loved
  • Self-worth – a sense of being valued
  • Significance – a sense of meaning and purpose

There are many events that can contribute or cause deep rejection, some of them including:

  • Comparison with others
  • Issues around conception/birth
  • Issues in the home – abuse, poverty
  • Generational addictions
  • Cultural (non-compliance)
  • Dysfunctional relationships

…and the list goes on.

Rejection prolonged over a long period of time causes deep wounding to your spirit and soul.

It is common that if you are hurt by rejection, you build walls around you hiding the real-self behind a false self of reality. We do this to try and quieten the shaming voices of the past, to gain the approval of others.

HOW TO KNOW IF I AM STRUGGLING WITH SYMPTOMS OF REJECTION?

Are you suffering symptoms of:

Emotions                    

  • Sadness
  • Self-pity
  • Self-hatred
  • Depression
  • Apathy

Mind

  • Inferiority
  • Insecurity
  • Fear of failure
  • Guilt
  • Shame

Spirit

  • Discouragement
  • Despair

HOW TO BE SET FREE

In order to be set free from rejection, you need to break free from your past. To do this, regardless of how painful it is, you need to face your past hurts, insecurities, guilt, resentments, disappointments, taking full responsibility for wrong thinking, wrong reactions to injustices, wrong choices & wrong behaviour.

It is easy to automatically want to blame your parents, spouse, other people, circumstances and even God for your wrong behaviour. It is important to invite Holy Spirit in this process, to guide you into a process of renunciation, confession, repentance and inner healing.

Transformation depends on renewing our minds, not on changing our circumstances past or present. Healing the memory of past trauma or rearranging the current situation fails to address the real problem…the remedy centrally involved repentance.

Laurence Crabb (1987)

10 THINGS YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ABOUT YOU

Many people struggle to accept themselves, struggle to accept the way their Creator, God,  designed and made them. Society puts so much pressure on individuals to have to look a certain way, be a certain body size, height, and the list goes on. Many people are pressured into impossible standards, influenced by social trends, identifying themselves against social standards. It is no surprise that billions of dollars are spent on cosmetics annually, with so many trying to achieve a certain look to conform to social trends. The reality is, there are certain things about you that can never be changed. We all need to accept and embrace our reality, our differences. Below is a list of ten things you cannot change, also known as the 10 unchangeables.

10 UNCHANGEABLES

  • Parents
  • Gender
  • Birth order
  • Siblings
  • Physical features
  • Race
  • Mental capacity and temperament
  • Time in history
  • Ageing
  • Death

It is important that you come to a place of accepting your “unchangeables”. Understanding and accepting who you are, your identity, allows you to progress in life and walk in confidence. Not being confident in your identity leads to confusion and a need to constanty seek approval.

Society identifies us by concepts of success, how masculine or feminine you are, your appearance and unhealthy attachments to people or things.

In order to understand who you are and what your identity is, it is important that you connect with the source, your Creator, the One that created you and formed you.

What does God say about you? Replace the ‘I am’ with your name.

  • I am a child of God

But to all who have received him– those who believe in his name– he has given the right to become God’s children (John 1:12).

  • I am a friend of Jesus.

I no longer call you slaves, because the slave does not understand what his master is doing. But I have called you friends, because I have revealed to you everything I heard from my Father (John 15:15)

  • As a child of God, I am a fellow heir with Christ.

And if children, then heirs (namely, heirs of God and also fellow heirs with Christ)– if indeed we suffer with him so we may also be glorified with him (Romans 8:17)

  • I am a new creature in Christ.

So then, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; what is old has passed away– look, what is new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17)

  • I am no longer a slave, but a child and an heir.

So you are no longer a slave but a son, and if you are a son, then you are also an heir through God (Galatians 4:7)

  • I am seated in the heavenly places with Christ.

And he raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus … (Ephesians 2:6)

  • I am God’s workmanship created to produce good works.

For we are his workmanship, having been created in Christ Jesus for good works that God prepared beforehand so we may do them (Ephesians 2:10)

  • I am a citizen of heaven.

But our citizenship is in heaven– and we also await a saviour from there, the Lord Jesus Christ … (Philippians 3:20)

 

BROKEN HEART, TEMPORARY STATE

You finally think you’ve met the person of your dreams…the ‘one’ you had been praying for, perhaps for years. You already had made your requests known, and one day, when least expected, they just show up!

Everything about that person confirms that it aligns, everything! It matches above and beyond what you had submitted on your prayer list, in the specifics of a life-partner and everything just seems easy. They are heading the same direction, hold the same values, similar vision.

You are grateful for His provision as you journey through your new relationship, resolving in your mind that you are committed for the long-haul, completely invested, until one day, unexpectedly, they drop a bombshell, they no longer want the relationship!

They may or may not have given details of their decision. Perhaps they did, but it makes no sense, actions vs words contradicting.

A million things go through your mind…you begin questioning, are they rejecting me because of me? Did I say or do something to deter them? Is there someone else they have met that superseded our relationship? If they knew my circumstance and situation prior to meeting me, why pursue me knowing that in their heart, it can and would never work out? Why didn’t they think things through before playing with my heart and emotions?

You begin to get angry and ask yourself, why would someone intentionally play with my heart? How can someone be so inconsiderate? Why would someone go completely out of their way to pursue relationship without having the boldness or character to compete what they started?

You don’t want them to see your emotions, the tears, for fear of being vulnerable, so you put on a brave face and be strong, making out to them, it’s no problem. You try to comfort yourself internally, by thinking thoughts such as, I don’t care, I don’t want to be with them anyway, it was never going to work out, while your heart beats fast, and you’re overwhelmed with pain, thoughts flooding you as they continue to speak before walking away.

The next few days, you ask yourself, but every sign pointed to things working out, are they running from something? Fear of what people will say, fear of things not working out, fear that God is unable to provide and order favoured steps to make the impossible possible. Are they running from past experiences and hurt? Fear of commitment?

So, what do you do? You feel overwhelmed with emotion, sick in your gut, perhaps stomach cramps at the thought of losing the very person you thought would be your life partner. You begin to question God, “if I was open to Your intervention and You went before me, why did you allow this person to come into my life in the first place”?

Overwhelmed with disappointment, you go to bed at night and uncontrollable tears flow, you wake up in the morning, having to face reality again that it is over, and tears begin to flow. You want what’s best for them, you do, but deep down you also want them to understand the hurt you are experiencing.

Perhaps you’ve seen glimpses of this person’s potential, knowing and understanding the call on their life, you want what is best for them, what makes them happy, but at the same time grieving the loss and feeling a mix of anger, fear, pain and betrayal!

You ask yourself over and over, what is life going to be without them? How do I move forward from this? Will the pain ever go away? It is normal that you are hoping and desiring for everything to be reversed and reconciliation to take place. You may be going through a period of denial, thinking it will pass over, almost like you are in a dream that you will wake up from.

We don’t always have all the answers and it just may be that God has you in a season, where He has allowed things in your life that took priority before Him to be removed, so that, once again, You can cling to Him and let Him be in control vs you trying to take control, wanting your surrender.

It may be that God does want the relationship for you both, however, wants to be the One to take you places vs you trying to work things out in your limited human mind. So, what do you do? How do you move forward? The reality is, it does hurt and will so, for some time.

It is important at this time to recognise automatic thoughts that have emerged during the break-up. For example, I’m not good enough? Marriage mustn’t be for me, no-one will ever want to be with me, I will never open myself to another relationship. Often, we have a deep underlying core belief about ourselves. Are you able to identify anything negative, that you automatically thought about yourself, in relation to the break-up?

What are your painful feelings? It is important to acknowledge these, it could be rejection, anger toward the person who broke it off, disappointment, betrayal, isolation….what else? It is helpful to write them down. All of these feelings are important to recognise and acknowledge.

What actions have you taken so far? Have your actions been appropriate or reactive? Perhaps you feel compelled to accept another relationship out of spite? Maybe you have been reactive and sent them a not-so-nice message; you may have said things that you wish you could now take back.

As you try and push through this painful season in your life, it is important to identify any irrational thinking. It helps to write these down.

For example, some of the lies (irrational thinking) may include:  everyone wants to be with me – I can’t understand how I was rejected, or, I am incapable of being in a relationship, or, you may have thoughts of, no-one ever wants to be with me or, God will never meet the very things my heart desires.

God says in His Word in 2 Corinthians 10:5

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

How do we do that? We have to recognise the untruth of our thoughts, or perhaps, on the flip-side, the facts. For example, not everyone is going to like me, regardless what I do. Or, demolish the lie of no-one ever wants to be with me.

So, what is the reality? What are my core beliefs? These can be promises that God has made to you, which you know and believe are true.

For example: 2 Timothy 1:7, For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind or Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

What other core beliefs, truths come to mind now? How can you demolish (remove) the lies and replace these with the truth? How can you put off the old and put on the new?

This can be done through prayer, letting it go, choosing to forgive, maybe you are led to uplift that person in prayer, a practical way to help you forgive.

It is important throughout all of this, to acknowledge and ensure your behaviour and acceptable thoughts are aligned to your values. For example, to forgive, as He has forgiven us, to accept that every man and woman has free-will to make their own choices.

How do you move forward? It is always a process. It can be helpful to ask yourself these questions:

  • What are you good at?
  • What is your state of readiness for change in this area at this time?
  • What are you prepared to give up to feel better?

Relationship break-down is never easy. A broken heart is real and painful. The good news is, it’s not the end. God says He has a great future planned for you! Walk in confidence knowing He has a great plan mapped out for you. Remember, you too should only want God’s best, including someone that will make sacrifices, travel half way around the globe if needed, giving you their all to be with you!

Psalm 147:3 He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.

If you are struggling with feelings of anger, rejection and resentment, it is really important to be released into freedom from these feelings through forgiveness.

 

 

 

 

DON’T TRY AND REASON WITH YOUR SEASON

Have you ever experienced a season in life where everything seems to fall to pieces? It could be a combination of a few things, for example, loss of job – financial crisis, or a broken down relationship.

It can be really difficult to accept your current reality; especially if you had/have no control over your situation, or if it is completely out of your control to influence the outcome.

Are you feeling extreme disappointment? Are you asking yourself if God has forgotten about you? Are you blaming yourself, thinking that your current circumstance is due punishment for something you intentionally, willingly did.

The truth is, there is a reason for every season. It could be a season of repositioning (how exciting)!! It could be God wanting to refine certain gifts in you. It may be a push to complete surrender where God wants to be God, however in order for that to happen, He needs you to surrender and trust in Him, not to try and manage things in your own strength, but  rather, to trust In Him and His ability.

One of my favourite verses in the Bible…

Isaiah 25:1 (AMP)  O Lord, You are my God; I will exalt You, I will praise and give thanks to Your name; For You have done miraculous things, Plans formed long, long ago, [fulfilled] with perfect faithfulness

Resistance in a difficult season provides no purpose. Surrendering and recognising the opportunity for exponential personal growth, as difficult as the season presents is wisdom!

Whatever life has presented you, you get to choose your reaction. Do you react to circumstances based on irrational, reactive, compulsive thinking or do you choose to react based on your personal core beliefs and values?

Trying to reason with your season can pro-long the season with little to no outcome. Embracing your current reality, recognising presented opportunities, learning the lessons in your current season, leads to growth.

Embrace very season and thank God in advance for what He is orchestrating for you.

LIVE LIFE, BE HEALTHY

Did you know that God loves and cares about you so much, it’s His desire for us to be in top health? He wants us to be strong, healthy and free of disease. How do I know?

Proverbs 3: 7-8 (AMP) “Be not wise in your own eyes; reverently fear and worship the Lord and turn [entirely] away from evil. It shall be health to your nerves and sinews, and marrow and moistening to your bones”.

Matthew 25:35.40 (AMP) “For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me..”

1 Corinthians 6:20 (AMP) “You were bought with a price [purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own]. So then, honour God and bring glory to Him in your body.

In today’s world, it’s can be so hard to keep on top of everything. Finding time to do anything, let alone set time aside to take care of our health!  How challenging it can be to set time aside daily to exercise our bodies/prepare fresh, nutritious food to eat and ensure we get adequate rest. Juggling home-duties, a demanding job, children, kids activities, paperwork, bills and the list goes on, it’s so easy to neglect your health.

It’s not just physical or spiritual health God cares about. He cares about our physical, spiritual, mental, emotional well-being. In this 21st century, how difficult it is to stay on top of everything, let alone, take care of ourselves in every aspect!

A very common symptom that affects many in today’s society is stress.

Hardship often can lead to some form of stress, whether it be anxiety or an overwhelming sense of pain. Stress more than often affects us physically. Our bodies are designed to handle stress for short periods of time. In fact stress is good in that it heightens our senses, allows us to think on the run , keeps hunger at bay when we need things to be done urgently. It makes us alert , protects us from being injured by releasing inflammatory makers should we be injured in our rush to get things done… not such a bad thing  so long as it’s only for a season and not long-term.

Stress becomes an issue if its chronic. If you are experiencing hardship or going through a tough time in your life, it is vital that you take time out to relax, find solace in prayer, journal your thoughts, your feelings, your hurts, disappointments and acknowledge what you are grateful for despite the prevailing circumstances.

The stress hormone cortisol may cause unwanted effects in the body if it is released over an extended period. Signs and symptoms of chronic stress include:

  • Anxiety attacks or panic attacks
  • Inability to sleep or maintain sleep
  • Weight gain
  • Weight loss
  • Lack or increase of appetite
  • Dry scaly skin
  • Digestive problems such as constipation , diarrhea,discomfort in the stomach
  • Joint pain
  • Headaches
  • Acne
  • Hair loss
  • Thyroid malfunction
  • Metabolic issues

PSALM 147:3 = HEALING

Studies have shown that people going through divorce or separation may develop chronic diseases during that period. On the scale of the most stressful life events, divorce is right there next to the death of a loved one.  The good news is that there is a cure. Psalm 147:3 – He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds [curing their pains and their sorrows].

How amazing is this? God promises to heal our broken hearts, whether is be from loss, separation, relationship pain, rejection, it’s God’s will and His promise to heal us.

SURVIVING PERSONAL CRISIS…

Have you ever found yourself in a crisis, a situation that you didn’t plan for? Do you currently find yourself in an undesirable and uncomfortable position?

Life will throw you curve balls. You may be going through a challenging period now, where you find yourself in an unexpected storm.

Maybe your friends have turned on you, your spouse has betrayed you, maybe your work colleagues have accused you wrongly, perhaps you’ve lost your job, or things have come up which has placed you in an undesirable financial position.

You may be thinking to yourself, how am I going to get through this? How am I going to make it? Maybe you’re wondering how God could have allowed you to be in the situation you’re currently in.

A crisis can be defined as a time of intense difficulty or danger. It can also be defined as a time when a difficult or important decision must be made.

Crisis can be seen in different ways. To some people, when they find themselves in a crisis, their world has come to an end (metaphorically speaking). To others, crisis can offset depression or self-pity, anxiety, depression and fear, leading them on a downward spiral.

For others, and hopefully yourself, you will see and allow your crisis to become an opportunity! An opportunity to reflect on your current situation, reflect on past decisions, note why and how things have transpired, and an opportunity to revise life goals moving forward. An opportunity to re-visit your life goals and perhaps determine a new route to take you to your desired goal or planned destination.

Sometimes a crisis can be frustrating in the sense of a false accusation or being robbed of something, whether it be finances, reputation, broken relationship. Crisis may be the result of intentional interference or unintentional circumstances that are beyond anyone’s control, eg, economic downturn, natural disaster.

I know years back, when I personally faced a crisis, I have to admit, my initial reaction was fear and worry, which offset anxiety. I was out of my comfort zone, unsure of what to expect, unsure of what is next, unsure how I was going to make it, no knowledge of how things were going to transpire.

Now, when I find myself in a crisis, faced with the unknown, my reaction is no longer one of fear and worry, but rather, peace, solution and excitement to seek the opportunity in my time of crisis, as I trust in God.

One thing I have learnt through many, many trials, challenges and personal crisis, is that God always sees me through. I also know and am secure in the truth that God’s character does not change. If I face another crisis, I can rest and have peace in His delivery and guidance, provision and protection.

No matter the reason you end up in a crisis, you cannot afford to see your current circumstance as anything less than an opportunity. It can be a frustrating, yet an exciting time as you face the unknown.

It is important through a crisis that you manage what you have. Analyse and assess the resources you have and what you have access to. Differentiate between need vs want and make sure you put into place an action plan of how to conserve as much as you can and minimise on expenditure and try and maintain/preserve your resources.

For example, if you find yourself going through a financial crisis, you may need to draft a report of what you do have, how much you need to meet current and upcoming expenses and an action plan of how you will meet each expense. It may mean that you need to look at purchasing weekly specials when grocery shopping, eliminating the purchase of your takeaway coffees, limiting the use of utilities, eg, water, electricity.

It is a good idea to incorporate resource saving processes long term, in order to be good stewards of what God has entrusted you. In my home, once I finish watching TV, I turn off the power at the power point. The only light on is the one that I am using. Initially, some of these practices may require effort and diligence, however, once repeated several time, will become habitual and a way of life.

One example of crisis may be things have gone down in your workplace that has caused job insecurity or job loss. You still have a family to feed, a mortgage to pay, bills to pay, financial responsibilities that still need to be met. This, no doubt can be extremely overwhelming. You have a choice of how you handle your crisis – it is a choice. You can choose to be affected and be slapped with the repercussions of your crisis, or, you can choose to rise above your circumstance and be victorious over your crisis through re-visiting your goals, creative and innovative thinking and practical application.

You cannot afford to submit to your current ‘crisis’, but rather, take it as an opportunity for growth, for greatness and to understand your God given purpose on earth.

Your crisis is temporary! Find peace knowing that what you are facing is just for a season!

Everything is for a season, there is a time for everything! One of my favourite truths in the Bible comes from Ecclesiastes 3.

There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under the heavens:

  • A time to be born and a time to die
  • A time to plant and a time to uproot
  • A time to kill and a time to heal
  • A time to tear down and a time to build
  • A time to weep and a time to laugh
  • A time to mourn and a time to dance
  • A time to scatter stones and a time to gather them
  • A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing
  • A time to search and a time to give up
  • A time to keep and a time to throw away
  • A time to tear and a time to mend
  • A time to be silent and a time to speak
  • A time to love and a time to hate
  • A time for war and a time for peace

When you reflect on this, it is truth. Life events are seasonal. This is good news! What this means for you is that you may be out of work now, however, the season will end and you will find yourself employed.

If you are in the midst of a crisis and are in need of prayer, you can post a request here. We’d love to pray for you and believe that through your struggle, God will direct you and grant you wisdom to find opportunity to overcome your current circumstance and be blessed.

NOW IS YOUR OPPORTUNE TIME

Have you ever wanted to do something in life, make some changes, try something new, yet, it’s never been the right time?

Whether it be travelling, spending time with a loved one, starting a family, starting up a business, getting involved in ministry, and the list goes on.

Ecclesiastes 11:4, “He who watches the wind will not sow and he who looks at the clouds will not reap.”

How many times have you heard people saying, we’re waiting for the right time. How many times have you put something off, thinking that there may be a better time to do it?

Can you imagine a farmer, not planting his seeds until what he interpreted or believed to be the right time, not a cloud in the sky, wind force at a minimal, a certain amount of rain needed – it’s unlikely this farmer would ever have a harvest! He would spend day and night waiting for his opportune time, only it may never come, or it may be too late.

Imagine on the flip side, this farmer went ahead and planted his seeds, regardless of the weather! Perhaps he would get a great harvest? Perhaps some of his crops may wither, but the remainder are fruitful. The fact is, the farmer has no control of the weather, nor can he predict or influence the weather, however, his chances of reaping are far greater if he sows vs if he doesn’t!

In a similar manner, don’t wait for things to be perfect before stepping out and doing something. You may end up waiting all your life! You may be wanting to start a family with your spouse, however, waiting until you are ‘financially ready’, or you may be wanting to start a new business initiative, however, waiting for a less busy period with your current job.

The fact of the matter is, some things in life we have no control over! Solomon encourages us to step out, go ahead, take some risks. You may try something and not be successful. You try again and you are – you just don’t know, however, if you don’t sow (don’t step out) you will never know!

JUDGEMENT

There are two sides of judgement, both just as harmful as the other.

The first is when we are judged, gossiped about or criticised. What do we do? Do we lash out? Do we try to defend ourselves so people know our side? Do we try to bring the other person down to make us look better? Do we look for fault in the other person? Maybe we stew about it and our thoughts bring us into a negative place. Do we shrink back and try to hide from others? We may even allow those words to penetrate to our heart and make us believe that we are less than. These words can make us bitter and it is so easy in that place to look for revenge because we are hurt.

Jesus said “Bless those who curse you”. Wow, that is so hard to do but what I have found is that it sets us free. When we think about that person and we pray a blessing over them, it releases us from the bitterness, anger and pain. It keeps our heart healthy. We start to see people in their hurt and have empathy for where they are.

A few years ago I had a woman who was so nasty to me and said things that were not true. I was so angry at the time but decided I needed to drop it for my own health. Just recently she opened up to me about some things she had gone through and the immense pain she was carrying because of that. We never know the battles people are facing and the pain they are going through so it is always better to bless them and be kind to them.

The other side is when we judge other people. This is where we become proud believing that we are better than others when in fact it reveals that we are struggling within ourselves. I remember something that Ps Ray Andrews said in a sermon “When I am happy with me, I’m happy with you”. A person who gossips and judges will always be someone who is in pain themselves. When we find flaws in others or tear others down, we are looking to ease our own inferiority. If we find ourselves quick to judge or criticise others, then we need to look inside and see what we are not happy with.

Loving people and being kind are not always easy but it helps us live a much more peaceful life both within ourselves and with those around us!

Naomi Enevoldson