WHAT IS DATING?
Dating is a process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a long-term partner.
READY TO DATE
You are ready to date when you don’t need to. If you require a partner in order to be satisfied or feel wholesome/alive, you are not ready to date! Our Creator, God, wants us to be whole and fully satisfied, knowing and understanding who you are. A partner is not going to bring wholeness to you or heal brokenness. A partner is not there to fill feelings of emptiness, sadness, loneliness. You need to be whole, satisfied and at peace with or without a partner.
How many times do you see someone coming out of a broken relationship and desperately trying to fill the void by getting themselves into another relationship. A healthy relationship is made up of two individuals that are wholesome and complete in God, each person understanding their identity, embracing who they are.
MEET MY LIFE PARTNER
Many singles keep asking themselves the same question, where and when will I meet my life partner? For each person, it’s different. It is important to be living a full life, utiliising the gifts you are born with, regardless of your single status. Life should not begin when you are with someone. Every day is a gift. You should want to meet someone with similar spiritual goals, someone that is walking according to their calling, towards their destiny, living out the very purpose of their existence.
I believe God created us with a deep desire and need for companionship. God knows your desires and He will answer them in perfect timing. As you live life according to the purpose placed within, God will cross your path with another like-minded person.
APPLY WISDOM – CHOOSING A PARTNER
Ask yourself these questions:
- Are they committed to the same faith?
- Are they spiritually compatible?
- What are their priorities?
- What are their goals in life? Do these align with yours?
- What is their relationship like with their family? Are they at peace with other family members?
- Are they financially secure – have a job?
Definition of true love…
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.defines true love.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Are you patient with one other?
- Are you kind to one other?
- Are you never envious of one other?
- Do you never boast to or about each other?
- Is your relationship characterised by humility?
- Are you never rude to one another?
- Are you not self-seeking?
- Are you not easily angered with one another?
- Do you keep no record of wrongs?
- Are you truthful with one another?
- Do you protect one another? Physically (obedient to God’s Word)? Emotionally? Spiritually?
- Do you trust one another?
Proverbs 18.22 – He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the LORD.